Happiness

do not give up

Can I achieve what I really want, or should I give up?

We are urged to persist in order to achieve what we want. Don’t give up. Success could just be around the corner: Winston S. Churchill: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” Roy T. Bennett wrote in The Light in the Heart: “Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying.” Colin Powell: “Success is the result of perfection, hard work, learning from failure, loyalty, and persistence.” Elbert Hubbard: “There is no failure except in no longer trying.” Louis Pasteur: “Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal: my strength lies solely in my tenacity” These are just a few of the many quotes you can find on the internet extolling the virtue of persistence and continuing in the face of failure. You must continue, of course, because it will lead to success. But is this really true? Persistence is a very useful quality to possess, but it can be counter-productive sometimes. It’s important to be able to distinguish between when persistence is a positive …

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Do we really know what people are thinking?

My partner recently went to help a stranger who had suffered a major fit. The woman was completely out of it. John and another man stood with her and talked to her till she came round. Once she was fully conscious, she completely ignored them and went on her way. When he told me this, I was shocked at how ungrateful she was. Surely, she could have taken the time to thank these total strangers for their help. It was dreadful that she had just gone on her way without stopping to recognise their kindness. John then told me that he had spoken to someone who knew her well. Lucy told him that the woman was ashamed of her fits. When she had them in public, she just couldn’t bear to acknowledge what had happened. This meant she couldn’t thank strangers for their actions and concern. This set me thinking. It’s a great reminder that we just don’t know what is going on for other people. Without knowing about her shame, her actions seemed ungrateful …

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5 powerful evidence-based ways to overcome your stress

We all know what stress is, but what can we do about it? There’s lots of ideas out there but are they backed up by solid research? Here are 5 simple but powerful stress reduction techniques that are: 1. Black Tea Soothes Away Stress Many people reach for a cuppa when they’re stressed. In many countries people will be offered tea after a shock or bad news. Research from University College London found that people recovered more quickly from every day stress when they drank black tea than when they drank a placebo. The  black tea has an effect on stress hormone levels in the body. 2. Volunteer to beat stress Barbara R. Edwards, MD, MPH says: “One of the most surprisingly effective ways to enhance happiness and decrease stress is through volunteer work — that’s why I promote the idea that volunteering and being of service is a terrific way to improve your quality of life, and the lives of those in your community.” Volunteering can reduce your blood pressure, make you grateful for …

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Can I learn to be truly happy?

Many of us spend a lot of time being unhappy. Is it possible to change? If the answer’s no, then we might as well stop there. It would be a very short blog post!! But I do believe that we can change. We can experience life differently. I was reading recently about young people and how they use their thumbs. Now we all know and have seen how young people will use both their thumbs on smartphones, and they’ll be texting or swiping really quickly with both their thumbs. Constant use of smart phones has changed the way that they use their hands. When they started, it was probably difficult to do, but two-handed typing is faster than one-handed typing. It may be difficult initially typing with two thumbs, but it’s a lot easier than typing with two index fingers. They kept on repeating it and repeating it until it became a habit. As it became normal for them, some also started using their thumb rather than their index finger for pointing. So you can …

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